We live in a culture that thrives on quick sound bites and formulaic responses to complicated matters.
For example , I am reminded of a New York Times bestseller called He’s Just Not That Into You. I actually never read the book but from what I have heard about it, it sure sounds like a one trick pony to me. The basic assumption was that if a man does not return a phone call after a date it is because he is just not that into you. What if he just lost his job? What if he is commitment phobic and responds this way to all women? It is not hard to find other books with a tendency to oversimplify also on the best sellers list.
In that vein, I feel it is often common for people to assume that if someone says the often used comment “I just don’t have enough time” in referring to their creative endeavor, that it is a sure indication of resistance. What if it is not so black and white?
What if someone just suffered the loss of a parent and is paralyzed by their understandable grief? Or perhaps a woman is yearning to set aside time to work on her passion of writing yet has just given birth to twins.
Sometimes it may be about the lack of energy and consequent lack of ability to focus that may be one way to explain the behavior. IF someone is weighted down by a difficult emotion or a new life transition, it can feel like wanting to get up from the couch with a body that just won’t move.
Sometimes life happens and our behavior just cannot be easily labeled.